Being single isn’t always easy. Even those of us who seem at their most comfortable when they’re on a first date, or trying to woo someone in a social setting, would concede – if you pressed them – that knowing what a prospective girlfriend or boyfriend wants in a partner can be difficult to determine.
And while it’s often women who tend to be more open about their dating troubles, a lot of men – even though they may not like to admit it – find the process hard also. There are so many variable factors which can make or ruin a date, that it can be easy to become nervous about them.
When you’re meeting someone for the first time, it’s important to just know your limits, and work on the thing you know you can control – yourself. That means being the absolute best person you can be.
So what do women look for in a man? Which traits do they find the most attractive, and dare we say, sexy? Here are our top four:
Intelligence
That’s right. Forget what the bullies told you about ‘nerds’ at school. Clever is as sexy as actors and actress you see in movies listed at Fuqqt. But while intelligence can be a brilliant ally on a date, it can kill the connection stone dead if you don’t know how to use it. Whatever you do, don’t use it to show off. Be humble with it. Use your expertise on a given area to take the conversation on a journey. Don’t let it put distance between you.
Generous Nature
Don’t worry about how much money you do or don’t have, or showering your girlfriend with gifts. Generosity isn’t about that. Instead, try to show that you’re willing to invest time and effort in other people. This might be by helping out those less fortunate than you, or going out of your way to help someone else solve a problem. As well as doing your good deed for the planet, you’ll impress her in the process.
Fun to Be With
We’re not saying you have to be the life and soul of the party and the centre of attention. But a sense of adventure and the ability to make a spontaneous decision are undeniably attractive traits. So when you’re out on a date, don’t just go for the safe, dinner-movie combination. Mix it up by taking her to the best escape rooms in your area. Take things out of your comfort zone. Surprise her.
Good Sense of Humour
One thing we all (or at least most of us) have in common is that we want to be with someone who can make us laugh. But it has been said that laughter is an aphrodisiac too. Just remember to be tasteful, subtle, and (in moderation) self-deprecating. Being overtly vulgar or joking about the time your friend needed prescription medication for an STI may be a bit full-on. And adopting a stand-up comedian style persona of arrogance is often a step too far as well. Friendly wit, which falls inside the parameters of normal conversation, is more than enough.
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Steven Rex works for Express Doctor, one of UK’s online legal suppliers of medical products. In his free time, Steven loves to read and socialise with friends and family.
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